Let’s face it. In the technological world of today – it’s easy to find people you can relate to, and just as easy to find people that irk you to the core of your soul. Normally for me, it’s Black & White. Either I agree, or I don’t.But as a work
ing mom, this whole Marissa Mayer Fortune Magazine Cover Scandal has me a little confused about where I stand. Go ahead and click the link to catch up, I’ll wait… (CLIFFNOTES: Marissa Mayer, new CEO of Yahoo! graces the cover of Fortune’s “Most Powerful Women” issue. Problem: She’s not pictured pregnant, which she was until Sunday September 30. Reason: She declined to be photographed.)
My first instinct was to turn up my nose and write this chick off. How is she so caught up in her “position” and so busy on her high horse that she refused to appear on the cover of this special issue HONORING her??? Or is it that she’s embarrassed that she’s pregnant? If you’re pregnant show it off – Fuck the world!! Right? That’s what we all do and say right? Ehh, maybe not. If I were newly named the 14th Most Powerful Woman in Business, and I just so happened to be 9 months pregnant, what would I do?
Realistically, you better believe I didn’t wanna be photographed when I was 9 Months pregnant. Especially not to be plastered all over the internet for people to gawk at. Aside from being an
emotional mess raving bitch while pregnant, I just really didn’t feel like myself. I mean, what’s more draining & time consuming that literally CREATING A HUMAN BEING. I imagine being the CEO of a global corporation could be pretty damn time consuming as well, don’t you think?
Which leads me to my next point. Here is a lady, who has worked extremely hard in her life to have earned the nod as one of the most powerful women in business. Someone who has obviously put her career first for most of her life, is being immortalized and recognized for her achievements on the COVER of a special section of FORTUNE MAGAZINE. You’d want to look as fabulous as ever, no? Some argue being pregnant does make you look fabulous. I know people who say pregnancy is a beautiful thing that should be embraced with open arms and flowers and rainbows and carebears and hugs and shit. This is all fine and dandy for you lucky girls, but for some of us this just isn’t reality. Suddenly you question every bit of confidence you’ve ever had. You second guess every decision you make. You worry about EVERYTHING. So explain to me why the HELL the youngest, most powerful woman in Business would want ANYONE in the world to see her like this?
Let’s Say Marissa Mayer did pose pregnant. Instead of “Mommy Blogs” discussing how she was “Dissing Mommyhood” – business blogs would be talking about whether or not it was the right move for her career. Yes it would’ve been a nice gesture for working Mom’s everywhere. Yes, it might’ve even won her some brownie points with Moms around the world, but she would no longer be Marissa Mayer, google exec turned Yahoo! CEO. No matter how powerful, cut throat or genius you are – you will always be the lady who appeared pregnant on the cover of Fortune. You’re always the lady with the baby. The lady who’s so tired, exhausted, miserable & hormonal because well, fuck, she’s carrying around another person INSIDE OF HER.
I’d be a damn liar if I didn’t say I was guilty of thinking like this myself! When I was pregnant with Alex, I hid it from everyone at work for almost 4 months. A lot of people around me would ask me why and tell me that times have changed and people are way more accepting nowadays of working women with families. Truth was – it was total bullshit. When I came back from Maternity Leave – all my assignments changed to much less exciting projects. I got “accidentally” left off e-mails about work events after hours. I eventually quit because I felt like I wasn’t being given a fair chance to prove my capabilities. Might’ve all been in my head – probably wasn’t – but it definitely changed the way I related my career with my family. Put it this way – when it was time for me to go on job interviews to restart my career, I didn’t mention my daughter. I didn’t want anyone to think she would get in the way of my career.
It’s a sad thing when women are nervous about sharing their motherhood with the world. It’s a damn shame that women have to hide the fact that their pregnant. It’s a fucking TRAGEDY that women have to “work from home” during their Maternity Leave (as Marissa Mayer says she will).
So yes – it’s a huge opportunity missed. A TREMENDOUS opportunity missed to start changing that “stigma” associated with being a working mom. I am a BETTER employee because I multi-task. I am a BETTER employee because I now have a family to provide for. I may not be IN THE OFFICE every once in a while because my kid is sick, but you better believe I will make sure my responsibilities are taken care of. Whether that means bring work home, stay up late, wake up early – I will never let having a career get in the way of me BEING A MOM.
It WILL start to change. Someone will take those opportunities and capitalize on their powerful positions – eventually. Let’s just hope its before my daughter grows up and has to deal with the same issues.
So – are you offended that homegirl didn’t pose pregnant for the Fortune Magazine special section cover? Would you have done it? I wanna know your thoughts. Please share. I know I wouldn’t have.